Love Ramble

Tonight a friend of mine that I graduated with messaged me to say hi and to tell me that she was thinking about me. Nothing else. It was so sweet and innocent. It made my night. Sometimes it's just nice to know that someone somewhere is thinking about you, she explained in a message to a group of our friends.

Life is a beautiful thing. The web that we create connecting ourselves to people and the complicated relationships we form allow us the stability to never be alone. Even in those isolated moments of "I wish I had someone" or "I feel all alone" it isn't the case. The sad thing is, we don't always know it. It is possible to be surrounded by friends and family, loved ones that are near and dear and still be craving for more. And different people deal with this differently. The distractions of the world aren't helpful to the constant search for love and affection: what with things like facebook, instagram, tinder, grinder, twitter, and every online dating service that exists we are able to fuel ourselves with false feelings of being desired by someone out there in the world, a stranger. The conventions of the modern dating world - the fact that it is socially acceptable to have one night stands, multiple fuck buddies, hook up pals, and friends with benefits makes us feel a false sense of being loved. But we all do it and we all take part in it and we enjoy it. It's fun. It's fun to feel sexy and desired and pretend to feel loved, even if it's by someone you don't know.

So what's the problem? What's my point?

I guess what I'm trying to say is that while all those things we distract ourselves with are fun, they shouldn't be necessary. They shouldn't be things that we hold on to to take away a deeper pain, an emptiness, the feeling of wanting something that you don't have. I've always found that the love of a friend or family member is 100 times deeper and more pure than the love of a significant other. Call me cynical, jaded, or unromantic, but no man will ever love me the way my parents do, the way my best friend does. It's just a fact. And that's okay. And the sooner we all take a moment to feel ourselves surrounded by our family and friends, the more we will realize that we are never alone.

If you can imagine that somewhere someone in the world is thinking about you - maybe it's just a friend you went to school with - you'll realize that you are fuller inside than you could've ever imagined and that you aren't alone.